Chapter 15: Masking at Work | Unmasking Leadership

This chapter explores masking as the hidden and often invisible labour many neurodivergent people perform to survive and succeed in workplaces that were not designed for them. It examines masking not as manipulation or weakness, but as a learned survival strategy shaped by repeated exposure to misunderstanding, punishment, and exclusion.

The chapter breaks down the mechanics of masking across behavioural, cognitive, and emotional levels, showing how constant self-monitoring, social scripting, and emotional suppression drain executive function and contribute to exhaustion, burnout, and identity fragmentation. It illustrates how masking appears in everyday work contexts such as meetings, performance reviews, social events, and leadership interactions, and why its cumulative impact is so often underestimated.

A significant focus is placed on the personal and organisational costs of masking. Chronic masking is linked to neurodivergent burnout, emotional exhaustion, cognitive dissonance, and loss of authenticity, while organisations lose access to honesty, creativity, and psychological insight. The chapter highlights how cultures that reward composure, sociability, and conformity unintentionally reinforce masking as the price of belonging.

The chapter also examines masking in leadership, particularly for neurodivergent leaders and women in leadership roles. It explores why disclosure is such a complex and high-risk decision, how leadership stereotypes amplify pressure to perform “normality,” and why masking often intensifies as responsibility and visibility increase. The gendered dimensions of disclosure, credibility, and emotional labour are explored in depth.

Unmasking is reframed as a leadership practice rather than a personal confession. The chapter outlines how psychological safety, predictability, clarity, and structural support reduce the need for masking, and how leaders can model authenticity without over-disclosure. It emphasises that true inclusion does not demand vulnerability, but creates conditions where authenticity is optional, safe, and supported.

The chapter closes with a reflection on late diagnosis and the neurological recalibration that often follows reduced masking. It explains why capacity may temporarily dip after diagnosis, not as a loss of competence, but as a nervous system exiting long-term survival mode, and how sustainable leadership emerges when performance is no longer built on concealment.

This chapter is presented exactly as written, without commentary or summary. Chapters in this audiobook series are released regularly.

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